Whether you know it or not, every encounter that you have with another person is a relationship. Each time you share your time with someone, there is an exchange. As you already know, sometimes you like the relationship and sometimes you don’t. But you tend to innately and internally judge every shared experience and you have feelings about it on some level. There are times that you feel good about what happened and there are times that you feel bad. At times you don’t have any external feeling at all but I assure that on some level you do have an energetic relationship with everyone that you come in contact with. That is part of the human experience and to deny a relationship, is to deny a big part of human existence.
Most of us are lucky to have people in our lives and we can choose the nature of the relationship. When with others, do you choose love, hate or indifference? These really are your only choices. There is nothing in between. The decision is “all or none.”
The decision is easy because people have been put in your life to share an experience. Be aware of the fact that you are sharing life and you have crossed paths. Do you share love, hate or indifference? Kindness and acceptance of another person is always the easiest path.
You don’t have to allow a person to do whatever they choose in your relationship. You should always stay true to your values. Perhaps a person came into your life just to learn that lesson. A strong stand for what is right can make a change for the better in the both of you. Kindness takes many forms and sometimes a firm stand that may seem forceful, will result in peace. But look first for a calm, compassionate approach while knowing that some relationships require a firm approach.
I am fortunate to share my life with a lot of people who need guidance in the art of healing. My patients come to me with problems. The chiropractic profession is designed that way. I love clinical practice and I have always known that kindness helps the body heal.
Here’s a study presented at the Compassion and Healthcare Conference in November 2014 that supports my notion. When healthcare workers show compassion, patients often heal quicker and experience less pain and anxiety. Dr. James Doty, founder and director of Stanford University School of Medicine’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, also claims that compassionate treatment helps lower blood pressure, shortens hospital stays, and even reduces the severity and length of the common cold. He adds, “While healthcare providers hold the power to cure, it is how healthcare is delivered that can make a huge difference — not just for patients but for healthcare providers as well.” The same goes for helping to heal any dis-ease or ailment.
This is a relationship that I asked for when I took an oath to help people heal. I realize that you may have not taken the same oath. But every human relationship has, at its core, an exchange. Approach that exchange with awareness and know that there are no chance meetings. There are no coincidental connections between people. Each time you see another person you can make an exchange and because it is an exchange, you get back exactly what you give. Thank you for our relationship.